Some Women Give Other Women a Bad Name!

Hey O'Brien, Anna's talking about you!

Years ago, a male friend of mine was dating this girl. She was pretty damn good-looking. Tall, leggy, sexy smile and eyes. Physically, she was every guy's dream. Mentally, she was every guy's nightmare. She was moody, insecure, hated his friends (including myself because she saw me as a romantic rival), and didn't understand why my friend was majoring in History and Political Science. She wanted a rich guy to finance her lifestyle and my friend was so never going to be that guy. He frequently complained about her and never seemed happy when she was around. Finally, I confronted him about his relationship and asked him why he didn't just kick her to the curb if he was so miserable. His answer? "Dude, she's hot!" *le sigh* This could easily be a dissection on the bad choices men make about women all the time but it's about how some chicks just give the rest of us a bad name.

After my buddy finally broke up with this girl, he was pretty damaged about women in general. Any girl he saw as dating potential immediately had red flags no matter how nice she was. At least he steered clear of picking girlfriends based solely on their looks, but it doesn't negate the fact that his ex sort of ruined him for future relationships. I have plenty of guy friends who all have that one ex who made the guy overly cautious of females in the aftermath of the breakdown of their relationship. I'm sure my ex sees me as that "cautionary female" given that we aren't on speaking terms. The thing is, some females don't understand how they can affect a man's fragile psyche. Being overly needy, insecure, behaving psychotic, those are all attributes that will make a man run for the hills. However, this doesn't just apply to relationships.

In the workplace, I've encountered other women that would stab their own mothers in the throat to get ahead. I'm all for upward mobility for women, but backstabbing and cattiness is not my thing. These types of women are simply the girls I grew up with in many ways. The difference is, they're in "professional environments" now and see their bitchiness as being a "tough working woman." When these women are cutthroat in their professional and personal lives, it makes the rest of us appear to be evil man-eaters. It's one thing to be hard-working and ambitious. It's quite another to be hateful and two-faced.

My most disliked females are the ones who insist on sexually objectifying themselves to attract a man. These are the women who not only dress like hussies but behave like ones thinking it will elevate their status. It upsets me that I can't wear a shirt that shows a tad bit of cleavage because it'll be seen as "showing my body off" (I am extremely top-heavy so ALL my shirts show cleavage, unfortunately.) Women like myself are unable to be sexually confident without being labeled as sluts. It doesn't matter if I'm saving it for marriage, having an open dialogue about sexual behavior will unfortunately taint me with the same brush as prostitutes. Either way, I'm out of luck.

Women will always fight an uphill battle between the stereotypes against them and the reality of their personalities. Not all of us are psychotic, vindictive bitches. Problem is, there are plenty of females out there that make it bad for all of us!